courtesy
Word family
- courteousadjectiveB2
- courteouslyadverbB2
- discourtesynounC1
- discourteousadjectiveC1
- discourteouslyadverbC1
Synonym discussion
Sense: noun/1
These four words all relate to respectful social behaviour, but they differ in scope and formality. Politeness is the broadest and most neutral term — it describes considerate behaviour in everyday interactions, such as saying 'please' and 'thank you'. Civility is more formal and suggests the basic level of respect needed for people to coexist peacefully in public life, especially when they disagree. Manners (always plural) refers to the specific learned rules of behaviour passed down through families or cultures, like not speaking with your mouth full. Etiquette is the most structured of the group — it covers formal codes of conduct in specific settings, such as business dinners, weddings, or diplomatic events. In practice, while politeness describes the general quality of being nice to others, etiquette tells you the exact rules for a formal dinner. A person can have good manners without knowing fine etiquette.
Common collocations
Etymology
The word 'courtesy' entered Middle English from Old French 'courteisie', which came from 'corteis' meaning 'having courtly manners'. Behind 'corteis' lies the Latin 'cohors' (enclosed yard or retinue) — the same root that gives us 'court'. The original idea was that someone who belonged to a royal court was expected to behave with refined, polished manners. Over time, the meaning broadened from 'behaviour fit for a court' to 'any polite or considerate behaviour'.